Defense Mechanism
The
New York Times offers a helpful hint on protecting yourself from
vapid people who would call themselves your friends:
Jim Coffman, 40, a Democrat in Chicago, said he and his wife have not pursued a friendship with another couple whose three children are the same ages as theirs after seeing photographs of President Bush on the other couple’s refrigerator. He said they have discussed with other friends “being so amazed that we could have so much in common, and yet be so diametrically opposed” when it comes to politics.
We have used this mechanism to deter people who use politics as the determining factor for populating their high-school-like clique with other "cool" people so they can look down upon the nerds together. Except in the midlife cliques, the nerds are
evil.
So when people come into my home and see the collection of fundraiser photographs, only to determine they don't want to pursue a deeper friendship because I'm obviously evil or stupid by their reckoning, they're doing me a favor.
(Link seen on
Althouse.)